We use that word because we we think it’s a strength. Those of us that have it, secretly think it’s a virtue. “Oh . . I’m a perfectionist”.
Let’s pull off it’s mask and let’s call it what it is. Fear.
It’s fear that you’re not good enough, fear that you’re not worthy. Fear that you’ll be uncovered, exposed, critizised. It’s the lie that there’s some kind of a rent you have to pay in order to be here.
It’s like you’re auditioning for a part you already got. You don’t have to be perfect to be here. You get to just be.
You’re masking that absolute terror by never making a misstep. By being perfect. But when you call it fear, well that isn’t as fancy.
Perfectionism is just fear in high heels and a mink coat.Elizabeth Gilbert
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