Our conscious mind is volitional and even as we acknowledge that we might have the opportunity, the resources and the capability; we may set the goals, make the decisions to do the work we’d like to do . . we can still get in our own way.
Many of the constraints we have are real, but they are not insurmountable. To really commit to the work sometimes we need to redraw boundaries for the very real constraints of time and responsibility and energy.
It’s the other stuff . . the storehouse of beliefs, memories of what happened before and the emotional headspace to move forward. The domain of purposeful impactful habits that sometimes trips us up. All of us.
Each new story we tell ourselves has the potential to reshape our attitude and the behaviour that follows. The idea that we might be the only ones standing in our own way is as unsettling as it is reassuring isn’t it?
To lay it all out. . .the fears, the acknowledgement that we might hide in the busyness and that we have the power to reframe the narrative . . is empowering as much as it is unsettling.
There’s something about seeing it all there on a list, tasks to be tackled . . that makes it seem . . . do-able.
How might you trust yourself, your instincts, your intuition and your capabilities?
Now that you know this is the work to do. What will you do next?
How might you create a guardrail to keep yourself on track as you build this new muscle?
What would that look like? How would it work?